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Anxiety
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I just seem to feel anxious all the time and I don’t know why
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When I feel anxious everything speeds up, it’s like being in a film, it’s scary
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Every second I spend with somebody I don't know is literally torture!
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My breathing gets faster, then I feel spaced out, like I’m disconnected from the rest of the world
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If my mates don't text me back right away, i think they don't like me
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I'm worried my GF will find someone better
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I always worry about what I say to other people and what they think of me
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I pick at my nails, scratch my nose, tap my fingers or whatever when I feel anxious.
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It's not as bad as it used to be.
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Use a person's name. It helps you feel calmer
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Keep working at slowly stretching your comfort zone, one bit at a time.
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I'm coping with it by reassuring myself that I am valuable
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Just remember 'It's not personal'. People may be acting strange because of their own stuff
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I get a lot of headaches
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I've stopped drinking so much coffee - it has helped by body feel calmer
There's plenty to worry about in life: Will the school bus turn up? Have you remembered what you learned for your test? Can you make up with your pal after arguing yesterday? But when do these little niggles turn into something more serious and become what a specialist would call 'anxiety'?
Find out moreFamily issues
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When I found out that my parents were separating I was shocked. But it wasn't as bad as I expected
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I look after my mum when she drinks. I put her to bed. She's always worse on a Friday
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My mum and dad have split and I never know if my dad is going to turn up to see me or not
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The people who know tell me it's not my fault on a regular basis. But I find it so hard to believe myself
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I'm really sacred what'll happen if I tell someone
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Things were hard at home but I could always talk to my Gran
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I felt so much better when I finally told my teacher what was going on
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I worry a lot about my mum
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My mum and dad have sorted things out and it's getting better
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I know it sounds lame, but I was so upset when our dog died. I found it hard to cope but felt guilty I was feeling so bad
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I talked to a counsellor at my school once, it helped a lot but now I feel worse
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Best advice I can give you is to put yourself in the others' shoes. Really try to understand how they're feeling
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I was so sad when my grandma died. She was the one who understood me
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I know things are hard at home right now but they will get better
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I want to run away from home. Both my parents use drugs and alcohol and they fight
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My mum is away a lot looking after my granddad. I miss her
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I'm locked into a relationship I want to get away from but don't know how
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I'm scared if I tell, everyone will fall to pieces
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My mum has difficult times when she's ill. I worry about her but also feel cross
Sadly families hit rough patches from time to time. Times like this are upsetting for everyone, and may leave adults feeling overwhelmed and unable to cope, as well as you. Issues might include: arguments, separation and divorce, domestic abuse, sexual, alcohol or drug abuse and parental mental health concerns. In situations like these you need to remember it's not your fault.
Find out moreBullying
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It's hard to stand up to people who won't leave you alone
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I want to be able to look into the bully's eyes and not flinch, I don't want them to win anymore
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I know things will get better, and I will try to be strong until I get there
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My social life's bad and I'm trying to fix it. I don't know how to handle some situations, like when everyone laughed at me
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Had my parents intervened things might have been different, but I was fighting my corner alone
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It started with name calling. I have no idea why me or what started it ... it went on for 5 years
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I started staying in and just went on the internet all the time
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I don't need to live like this anymore, but it's hard to know where to start
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I was bullied throughout school which severely affected my self-esteem and mental health
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I used to think about the bullies all the time so I could avoid them
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My teacher really listened and helped sort it out
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I was scared if I told it would just get worse. But when I did tell it really helped
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My Dad didn't understand - he just said to ignore them - but I'd already tried that
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Who's Laughing Now - Jessie J
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I was called fat and lazy all the time
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Some kids are taught how to be a bully by having parents who bully them at home
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My sister and her friend are doing things to me I don't like, but the more I fight the worse it gets
It's unrealistic to expect your peers to be nice to you all the time, but if they're regularly saying and doing things to hurt or control you, that's bullying. Bullying can happen at any time in your life no matter what your age. The one constant is another person wanting to have power over you. You might be able to cope with small amounts of bullying. Support from friends can really help. But if things get serious, your normal life and mental health can really suffer.
Find out moreDepression
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I feel empty all the time; like there's literally a black hole in my chest, void of everything
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My stomach is constantly in knots
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I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.
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My boyfriend get depressed. He's creating a wall between us
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It creeps up on you and darkens your life but you can do a little every day and eventually it will ease
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I feel weak and lethargic and lack motivation
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I just want to be whole again
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It's a bit like dieting - the weight doesn't come off overnight - neither will the depression, but keep going
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Today is a good day
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Sometimes I just need to accept it's a bad day and not be too hard on myself
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One step at a time, really does help
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It can get better
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Think about what makes you feel better and do more of it
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Everything feels wrong
Life has its ups and downs: you may be feeling fed up about a friend letting you down. Demoralised you haven’t got into a team. Low 'cos your boyfriend's dumped you. But when do these natural feelings become more worrying and get to a stage where they could be described as 'depression'?
Find out moreIdentity
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I worry people will judge me, they'll think I'm ugly and hideous and will laugh at me
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The best advice I can give you is to put yourself in others' shoes. Really try to understand how they're feeling
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I'm afraid of being noticeable
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Ever considered other people may be worrying about what you're thinking of them?
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You have to believe in yourself
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Focus on the positives
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I worry what my Dad will say if he finds out I'm gay
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When I knew I liked girls I was confused. I was scared to come out. When I did it was such a relief
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Be true to who you are
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If you feel good about yourself others will too
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I feel so confused sometimes I feel adult, sometimes like a kid
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I just want to be me, others put me in a box
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I get a lot of attention. I wish boys would just let me be me
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Others don't like it when I'm good at things
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Just because you look at little bit different, you shouldn't be treated differently
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In Sheffield we went on the march of the Goths to end prejudice
Identity refers to your sense of who you are, as an individual and where you feel you belong. You can develop your own identity – what you like, what you think, what you believe in – but it's also formed by things outside of you, like the people around you and where you live. Identity changes over time. Finding out and feeling confident about who you are is an important part of adolescence. It's also esssential for good mental health and positive relationships...
Find out morePsychosis
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I didn't hear voices, but I would hear music looping in my head uncontrollably
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I felt like everyone was watching me. I was paranoid about pretty much everything
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I suspected I was being set up for something. I even worried my food was being drugged
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Thankfully, I've made, what I believe to be, a full recovery
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I learned how to maintain an appearance of being a sane, reasonably normal person
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I hear voices, see things others can't and perceive the world in a way others would deem surreal
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I can't go around ignoring my delusions but I can acknowledge and accept them for what they are
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I feel fine most of the time but can get ill if I don't take my medication
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I wish people would understand I'm still the same person, I just get ill at times
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I have some really good friends who have stuck by me
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It was such a relief to go to the doctor and get the help I needed
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I thought spiders were crawling up my skin
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I smoked too much skunk. It really did my head in
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It's scary what our minds can do
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I felt so much better once I got the treatment I needed
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I only had one episode. I now take great care of my mental health
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Some people think psychosis has something to do with psycho. They need to know it's not
You might have heard of the term psychosis and think it's something to do with being mad. Psychosis describes a mental state when it becomes difficult to know what is real. This mental state might only last a short time but it might happen more than once. There are different reasons why you might be in a psychotic state. It doesn't mean you're dangerous.
Find out moreSelf-harm
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I feel totally lost and alone, unwanted, hurting physically and emotionally
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I don’t want to tell anyone, they'll think I’m crazy
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Everything feels so bad, I need to do something bad to myself
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It gives me a rush, but then I feel disappointed, ashamed, stupid and sore
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I’m disappointed in myself and scared about how my actions are spiralling out of control
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It took time but now I can talk about how I feel
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I want to get out of this cycle
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I was so scared to tell anyone, but when I did it was such a relief
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I feel so angry inside. I need to find something to do to let go of these feelings
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No cutting for a week now. I'm going to try my darndest not to
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I didn't want to die. I just want this pain to stop
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Its not about attention-seeking. I go to great lengths to keep my scars hidden at all times
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If you know someone who self-harms it's important to treat them with respect and care
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I'm not certain I want to stop
Feeling low is a normal part of life. But if you feel bad most of the time, you need to find ways of coping. Young people self-harm (deliberately hurt themselves) as a short-term release from this pain; expressing very deep mental distress in a physical way. Although hurting yourself distracts you for a while, it can leave you feeling more alone, ashamed and confused.
Find out moreEating disorders
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The worst part is I can't concentrate on anything apart from how I can avoid eating
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I hate my body, its appearance, size, everything about it.
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My hair's fallen out and periods stopped.
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I feel guilty for making my family worry, so I just pretend to eat. That way no one gets hurt
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I used to exercise every day. At first It was amazing, I was on a high. I got completely addicted
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I hate eating in front of people
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When I eat I feel guilty so I make myself throw up
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I promised myself I would lose weight, even if it killed me
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Now I have thinning hair and a messed up metabolism
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Your mind plays tricks on you
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My friends obsessed with food. She's always counting calories and she takes ages eating, cutting it into smaller pieces
So you want to look and feel your best? You're not alone! But you're under a whole lot of pressure to look a certain way. This can lead to struggles with accepting how you look and who you are. Eating healthily means enjoying food in the right amounts to satisfy your body's needs. Sometimes food becomes a substitute for other struggles and starts to dominate your thinking. Ultimately, it can add up to an eating disorder.
Find out moreADHD
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I've had ADHD all my life and I'm 16 now. I've been on loads of different medications
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I wasn't diagnosed as a child; my schooling was a disaster
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I've taken medication for it for a long time and it really does help me in many ways
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I often find it very difficult to concentrate on what the teacher is saying
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I find it hard to sleep as it feels like my mind never switches off
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Medication is very closely monitored by the CAMHs team.
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Medication alone isn't the solution
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It's like having a motor that won't stop
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I find it hard to sit still
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People thought I was naughty, but I just couldn't sit still
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I need to keep off the sugar
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I have found it helps to do relaxation exercises
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I didn't realise it was ADHD until I was an adult
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I like to take a break from the medication during holidays
ADHD is when you find it hard to concentrate, can't sit still, and do things without thinking. It stands for attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Many people struggle with this kind of problem at certain times and in some places. ADHD is diagnosed when you've had these symptoms for most of your life, and they can't be explained as a response to other stresses.
Find out moreFeeling stressed
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I know I'm doing too much but its hard to slow down
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My whole body feels tense. Its hard to relax.
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I sometimes have to make myself breathe more slowly
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I wake up a lot in the night worrying about stuff that I need to do
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I find it hard to say 'No' but then can't get it all done
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I am freaking out about exams. Can't focus
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I need to chill
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When I've got loads on I need to spend more time doing less
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I like to be busy. Sometimes I don't know when to stop
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I feel so stressed - there's so much pressure about exams
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I hate making mistakes. I put a lot of pressure on myself
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I've noticed I always leave things to the last minute
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I want things to be perfect so I put off finishing them cos I always think they could be better
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I get a lot of headaches when I'm under pressure
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When am I going to learn to slow down?
It’s good to be busy and have lots on. But if you notice you're finding it hard to switch off, relax or having trouble focusing, it may be down to stress. A bit of stress now and again is fine. It helps you perform under pressure, stay energetic and alert. But if it goes on too long you might start to burn out, feel overwhelmed or find it difficult to unwind. If you recognise these signs of stress, you can take positive steps to reduce them.
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